Who we are, is what we believe. As you were growing up, you may have been told over and over that you were good at doing something. You believed it.
Similarly, if you constantly tell people they are doing a good job, they will eventually believe it even if, in the beginning, they have doubts about their ability. In essence, we become what we believe.
You may find at some point in your life that you have a position where you can influence another person or persons to have a greater belief in themselves than they do at present, or are people who you realize need a little boost in their own self-esteem. You may be in the position to influence how your own child feels about their abilities. This isn’t just a one-time task either for your counsel and encouragement will be called on for many, many years in the future. This is a particular kind of role that requires you to support your child as they develop new skills and not to criticize them if they should at first fail. This is a special role that needs patience, encouraging words followed by positive actions that help them build their confidence as they attempt to conquer a new skill.
In The Working Environment
This assistance in the continued growth of self-esteem is also paramount in a working environment. It does not really matter what kind of work you do, or if you are in a leadership role or not. One of the most valued support mechanisms is that of your colleagues. When a colleague tells you that you are developing your trade really well, for example when you are an apprentice and receive praise from a full journeyman, you take it to heart. This kind of influence and praise not only makes you feel that your abilities are being recognized but that you are worth speaking about from your own kind.
This kind of praise is also important when it is received from a leader or supervisor. It is also even more important that you not only be praised but that you are also given tips and suggestions to improve even more. Praise and positive suggestions work hand in hand to give your self-esteem a real boost. And, as you receive it so shall you pass praise on to those who also need a little encouragement. What you give, you receive and this applies to supporting and encouraging everyone around you.
And Do You Influence Yourself
Now, on the other hand, if you can influence and encourage someone else to believe in them, you should also learn to listen to your own positive words. You have complete control about what you think, what you believe, and how you act and behave. You are in the best position to know that you have abilities and talents and you are also the one who must exercise your own will to explore each of these talents and abilities more fully. You are your best supporter but you must also realize that you can also be your own worse nightmare if you allow yourself to be negatively influenced by others who do not encourage you or support you in on-going personal development.
If you find that you are doubting yourself, stop and reflect on all your past achievements. Be confident about yourself. Don’t let other people erode your confidence. Successful people know that the greater their self-confidence, the greater their achievements.
Keep Your Thoughts Positive
Don’t feed your mind with negative thoughts. If you do, you will come to believe them. The secret to self-confidence is to feed your mind with positive thoughts, and surround yourself with people who give you positive support!
Wisdom of Others About Believing
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become.” Buddha
“Believe deep down in your heart that you’re destined to do great things.” Joe Paterno
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” Norman Vincent Peale
“I believe the choice to be excellent begins with aligning your thoughts and words with the intention to require more from yourself.” Oprah Winfrey
“A man can be as great as he wants to be. If you believe in yourself and have the courage, the determination, the dedication, the competitive drive and if you are willing to sacrifice the little things in life and pay the price for the things that are worthwhile, it can be done.” Vince Lombardi